Accountability. Big word.
Sometimes, we know it; other times, we don’t see it coming. But what most of us don’t know–or at least try not to know–is that accountability is always behind us, at the back of our minds; somewhere lying subconsciously down our guts.
When we become friends with someone, when we enter a relationship with someone–we become accountable for them.
We become a part of their life, we become a part of the decisions they make–we become a part of their aftermaths.
When they do wrong things, we become accountable for telling them to set things right. When they plan on beating the red light, we become accountable for telling them to stop. When they fall apart, we become accountable for putting them back together.
When they fall apart, we become accountable for them.
But the tricky part about accountability is knowing when enough is enough.
Some days, we think we’re strong enough to handle them; other days, we think we need some space to breathe.
It’s tricky because some people are like sponges, they absorb everything and explode at once while others are more like tape and glue–hanging in there but barely.
I’ve read somewhere that loving someone is not for the faint-hearted because love–just like every decision we make–is a responsibility.
The moment we step inside, we become accountable for another person’s well-being; we become a holder of some responsibilities and duties that we may or may not have signed up for.
Perhaps, it’s true that love is not for the faint-hearted; because love has the ability to make us feel everything at once.
We become a ready-to-burst bubble of both good and bad emotions and that’s a good thing. Feeling something–everything, anything–is a good thing.
Some people are strong enough to handle it while others bail.
So maybe, the key is knowing when to bail. The key is knowing when to stop trying to save them. The key is knowing when to step back and not think that they are a basket case–that they can help themselves.
The key is knowing when to breathe. The key is knowing that being accountable for someone doesn’t mean we lose our duties to ourselves, to our own well-being.
The responsibility always looks too big at first glance.
And maybe, there’s no trick in keeping yourself from bailing when things get hard.
Sometimes, you have no choice but to brace yourself for the impact.
Sometimes, even with so little time to prepare, we just have to be ready. The real question is, are you ready?